- ask children before you hug them
- ask children before you pick them up
- if moving a child is unavoidable for their safety, at least warn them first and explain afterwards
- this applies to disabled children
- this applies to non- or pre-verbal children, since words are not the only kind of consent or language
- treat a child as you wish people had treated you
children are people. they will remember you violating their boundaries for their whole lives and it will irreparably damage how they view their worth as people.
don’t teach your kids that they should unquestioningly accept touch no matter what. teach them they deserve respect.
this is a really on-point post. My youngest went through a phase of refusing to hug people and my parents were like, “she’s being rude” etc and i was like “buuut isn’t this actually a fantastic thing for a child esp for a little girl, to be able to tell people NO and assert her own boundaries even if it means risking disapproval??” like really it was awesome and im so proud of her. And really, you can have all the conversations about safety and abuse but the absolute best way to teach your kids about consent is to model it and show them with your own actions that their bodies are their own and NO ONE ELSE, including their family, are entitled to it.
When we live in a world where you can access free content of naked consenting women in less than 5 seconds, why are people still invading the privacy of non-consenting women for nudes?
Hint: It has something to do with people feeling entitled to making any woman their personal porn, even if it violates or humiliates her in the process.
especially if it violates or humiliates her in the process, actually - that’s the whole point, that’s what they’re getting off on
when someone consents to be naked in front of an audience, when she owns that choice, when she has any appearance of control over her sexuality and her image - that takes away a lot of the thrill for people
(and i’m not saying that the porn industry isn’t fucked up, or that trafficking isn’t an issue, etc. but the simple fact that porn actresses consent - or appear to consent - that makes it harder to harm/humiliate them with their own sexual images…and that’s a problem for the ppl who do this shit)
it’s not about sexual imagery, it’s not about porn
the purpose is hurting & violating women, robbing them of choice, ruining them
simply put: this is rape culture